I’ve been pondering on this thing called marriage. What the fuck seriously! People are fighting so hard for something that now more that ever means so little. As a lesbian if I was asked between the choice of marriage with out the legal benefits and a union with the benefits. I take the union. I mean really can anyone tell me whats the point in marriage anyway other than the Lovey Dovey stuff we were taught as kids about living happily ever after. I mean I’m not knocking marriage but really…
(All future statements after this point are ramblings and may or may not hold complete truth)
Marriage all in all is a transfer of ownership. When you have limited funds you gotta get rid of the extra mouths to feed some how, so you come up with a dowry. I’ll give you these if you take this off my hand. Then the girl gets a ring to symbolize that she is someones property, she is given away by the father to her new husband and then she becomes a wife. Hinse Man and Wife… Man stays man women becomes wife.
Then as time progresses we get a little more liberal and let the two love birds decide they want to be together… with fathers permission of course. But does that mean they love each other. People think of how wonderful there grandparents relationships are and how they’ve been together for so many years… but what do you expect. If you marry at 18 the husband works, the wife tends to house and the only time you really spend together is at night procreating or going to church I think any couple could stand the test of time. Even if they didn’t love each other they would eventually form a bond or just get used to having the person around.
For anyone that might disagree with my last statement I give you this. We are not born to love our family. We love them over time. If you find out you are adopted tomorrow it does not mean you will stop loving your family. Parents and children can be assholes but we still love them.
But anyway back to marriage… Now marriage is a huge money making scheme. People spend all this money on a lavish weddings so they will have this one memorable day like they see in the movies and fairytales. Speaking of, I think that some girls have been programed to think that getting married will make everything better. Fairytales for instance have these girls in this terrible situation and then they find a prince get married and they live happily ever after. That’s BS but what ever. Is that why some people think that getting married will solve all problems. Sure he cheated on me ten times so far in our one year relationship but we’re getting married so it’ll be better.
So where was I … oh yeah… $$$$$ … People spend gawd knows what on these weddings. Lavish fucking productions really! Just to say I am willing to spend the rest of my life with you… maybe. Then of course if the maybe comes into play then the therapist and the lawyers get paid. It’s a great money making venture.
Anyway I digress… I’m sure some of you out there can find the wonderful romantic side of marriage and I’m happy for you… Go with your feelings… not so much rational thought… everyone see’s things differently.
As I stated earlier I am a lesbian and I did not post this to be all Give us our rights. I posted this cause I was bored. I would like to have the legal aspects of a marriage but I can understand that the majority think with emotion rather than facts and that might hinder my chances at making sure the person I choose to live with is taken care of if anything happens to me but you know that’s fine… that’s cool I get it.
One last question though… why can’t same sex couples marry? I mean is it do to the whole man+women rule? Cause if that’s the only rule I think it can be bent a little i mean really there are no rules for marriage other than that. If you don’t love each other you can get married, if you don’t know each other you can get married, if your drunk if Vegas you can get married, if you want to save an immigrant you can get married, if you want to be in a better tax bracket you can get married, and finally if your an atheist you can get married… but you cannot I repeat cannot be in a same sex couple.